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BLIND SPOTS OF THE SUBMISSIVE WIFE
For the woman who desires to see her blind spots in fulfilling her role as a wife. Here are a few examples of ways in which wives will accidentally communicate disrespect to their husbands:
· Undo something he has already completed or take a task away from him that he is in the middle of, ie: repack the car after he has completed it, take over a session of child discipline, interrupt and finish a story he is telling to someone, hire a professional to complete a project he has begun, etc.
· Make plans for the family and announce to him what the family will do.
· When it is late and you want to get home, announce to him it is time to leave rather than ask him if he wants to go now.
· When he states a conviction or announces something he wants you or the family to do, immediately resist him and begin presenting arguments as to why he has a bad idea. Don’t stop until he submits.
· When the children ask you for the family’s agenda, as if you were the leader, go ahead and give them your plan rather than direct them back to ask their father.
· When he is correcting the children, or when he is in debate with others, take their side. Correct him when you believe him to be wrong about something he is telling someone.
· Speak to him in a scolding, accusatory manner, particularly in front of the children.
· When he comes home later than you expected, scold him as if you were in charge of him and he was accountable to your authority.
· Make fun of him, especially when you think others will think what he has done or said is “dumb,” ie: telling a corny joke.
· Ask him for help with something, but speak your request in a commanding tone and express annoyance if he won’t cooperate with your request, ie: “Would you give the kids a bath, please!”
A good rule of thumb for a wife: With whatever respect words or attitudes you want your children to express toward you – behave in the same way with your husband.
Our ultimate model for respectful, submission is our Lord when he related to his Father in Heaven.
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